On the front porch swing

Over the summer of 2008, I established quite a friendship with Sandy, and I realized that I enjoyed her company more and more.

Near the end of July, we were both at a party, and I really was interested in her.  We decided to hang out on the swinging bench on the front porch.  I put my arm around the back side of the swing, just a little too shy to put it around Sandy.

My parents came to visit me in August, I knew that I wanted to be more than just friends with Sandy.  At Church, Sandy befriended my mom, and I felt that I was given a green flag.

After my parents left, Sandy was visiting me in my apartment watching the olympics, and turns out that we started holding hands.  About a week later after a stroll through a park we kissed.  That night, Sandy was so happy that she couldn’t help but to call and tell me how happy she was.  It was then that I asked her if she would be my girlfiend, making it official instead of assumed.

Sandy and her gingerbread house

I think things started becoming more serious during December.  Sandy and I had lots of fun Christmas activities, including making cinnamon ornaments and real gingerbread houses.

When I visited her and her family during Christmas, I began realizing more clearly just how much I love her.  Ideas about marriage were forming in my head, and I wanted her to visit Oregon before proposing, so I made arrangments for us to fly to Oregon for a three day weekend in the middle of Feburary.

And that is how the story begins.

Related posts:

1. This is where the story gets good Following a previous post where I tell the story of...
2. Christmas in January I was walking through Lowe’s tonight with Sandy, and we...
3. Games Before Christmas, I put on my wish list three games...

I brought a liter of water back from Oregon, and it tastes so good.

If any one sees the fire department racing toward the chemistry building tonight, don’t worry! It was probably just me forgetting that I left my bagel in the toaster a little too long.

Related posts:

1. Words may be lost, but memories persist I got a friend request on Facebook today from someone...
2. Baseball, more than just a game About the best ending for a baseball game is to...
3. Eh? Jeans. I did laundry tonight. It didn’t go well. See, I...

This post is password protected. To view it please enter your password below:

Password:

Related posts:

1. You minus I, a year-long reply About a year ago, I told you, you’re wrong I...
2. What is a date A “dateâ€? must pass the test of three p’s: (1)...
3. I love you I love a lot of people. I love my friends,...

These phrases seem a little odd to me.  They always seem to allude that the particular someone special is a person we haven’t met yet.  I think it may be unfair to think this way.  There are always possibilities that we will marry someone we have already met, but haven’t yet dated.

I think single people should keep an open mind about who they might eventually marry, and not limit their potential companions to those they haven’t yet met.

Furthermore, if singles put themselves in the mind-frame that they will marry someone they haven’t yet met, then they risk creating a habit of always looking for the next person, whom they will never actually find.

Related posts:

1. Job potential and marriage I had a roommate once who wasn’t currently in school,...
2. Marriage is not a human right A couple of days ago, I discussed the definition of...
3. Dating for pre-arranged marriages Today I thought up a troubling question; troubling only because...

Do people in pre-arranged marriages need to date? If you were in a pre-arranged marriage, do you date and get to know your arranged fiance?

On one hand, dating can be a stressful activity, and one that could be avoided completely in a pre-arranged marriage situation. Not only that, but eliminating dating could be financially beneficial.

On the other hand, dating can be a fun activity where the couple can get to know each other. Even in a pre-arranged marriage, learning about the other person in various situations, including pre-marital and dating situations, could prove to be helpful later when married. Not only that, but the beginning stages of marriage can be difficult time merging two lives into a companionship, and dating before marriage could alleviate the difficulties during that phase.

Fortunately, this question doesn’t really need to be answered.

Related posts:

1. The Dating Game He knows that she knows, but doesn't say because she...
2. Job potential and marriage I had a roommate once who wasn’t currently in school,...
3. Marriage is not a human right A couple of days ago, I discussed the definition of...

I went to Macey’s. I didn’t know why, until I got there. The reason why is that I knew that if I was wandering around in public at Macey’s then I couldn’t break down and cry. I’m not sure if I have a good reason to cry, it might just be the anxiety. I totally bought a bottle of Martinelli’s Sparkling Cider. I’m drinking it now. Something about drinking directly out of a glass bottle makes you feel better. I also bought milk and bread, but that was it. However, I spent almost an hour in Macey’s. I needed the time to walk and think and stuff.

Double crossed double betrayal. Maybe that is what I fear most. Will my further thinking inspire further insight that will lead me to such belief?

Driving fast with really loud music is also good theropy. I think I need to make a mix of music to describe how I feel now. This mix shall be called, “Inspired by Insight.” That should be the title of my next blog entry.

P.S. My arm is spazzing out. Oh, and is it wrong to spell check a password protected blog entry?

P.P.S. I also figured out why I’m so scared to sleep. It’s because I do my crying on my pillow, and I don’t want to go there.

Related posts:

1. A few favorite recipes I like cooking.  Today I’m deciding to publish a few...
2. Serendipity 2 I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the wisdom of...
3. Things that make me happy Ice cream Pumpkin Pie Photos My hanging plant Dilbert...

Related posts:

1. Macey’s is my favorite place Well, the anxiety is back. I feel like I can’t...

My classes seem like they will go well. By the end of the semester, I should be quite the expert at operating systems and embedded systems. I’m taking 11 credits from three different classes on these topics.

My ward is great. I just got called to be the Assistant Wark Clerk in charge of Membership as my calling. So I will probably get to know everyone fairly well–at least on paper. There aren’t very many girls in the ward here though, and I’m kind of concerned about dating.

Related posts:

1. Reasons why it stinks to be an engineering student at BYU A WIRED.com post (also posted to Slashdot.org) gave 5 reasons...
2. The Dating Game He knows that she knows, but doesn't say because she...
3. What the sneeze? A brief entry about today...

In this talk, Elder Oaks describes what a date is:

A date€ must pass the test of three p’€™s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off.

A lot of my dates recently haven’t cost me any money, so I guess they are paid for. I think the biggest problem is with planning ahead. I like to do a lot of things randomly, without planning ahead a lot. How much planning ahead counts? A few minutes, an hour or two? What if its something I’ve considered for a couple of days, but only asked the girl a few hours a head of time? Is that planning ahead?

Related posts:

1. The Dating Game He knows that she knows, but doesn't say because she...
2. Dating for pre-arranged marriages Today I thought up a troubling question; troubling only because...
3. This is how the story begins The story begins like this.  Upon moving to Colorado, I...

Lets compare growing a relationship between two people to growing a plant. To frequent DTRs are like pulling the plant up to examine its roots. Its not going to grow very well that way. If, however, you are concerned with nurturing it, then it is more likely to grow.

Related posts:

1. DTR DTRs are like Companionship Inventory...
2. On hand holding and kissing On one of the mailing lists I subscribe to, there...
3. The relationship stepping-stool A few years ago I took a student development course...