Posted in Lifeon Aug 29, 2005
I’m back at BYU, and since I haven’t written here in a while, I thought I would do just that. I’ve noticed that it has been almost a year since my first real blog entry. Yay for me and here is hoping for another year of blogging.
My classes seem like they will go well. By the end of the semester, I should be quite the expert at operating systems and embedded systems. I’m taking 11 credits from three different classes on these topics.
My ward is great. I just got called to be the Assistant Wark Clerk in charge of Membership as my calling. So I will probably get to know everyone fairly well–at least on paper. There aren’t very many girls in the ward here though, and I’m kind of concerned about dating.
Recently in church we’ve been talking about dating. I guess thats what I get for being in a student ward. Anyway, today in one of our meetings we went over Elder Oaks’ CES Fireside talk: The Dedication of a Lifetime.
In this talk, Elder Oaks describes what a date is:
A date must pass the test of three p’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off.
A lot of my dates recently haven’t cost me any money, so I guess they are paid for. I think the biggest problem is with planning ahead. I like to do a lot of things randomly, without planning ahead a lot. How much planning ahead counts? A few minutes, an hour or two? What if its something I’ve considered for a couple of days, but only asked the girl a few hours a head of time? Is that planning ahead?
Posted in Socialon May 29, 2005
I heard this today and I thought it was interesting enough to share.
Lets compare growing a relationship between two people to growing a plant. To frequent DTRs are like pulling the plant up to examine its roots. Its not going to grow very well that way. If, however, you are concerned with nurturing it, then it is more likely to grow.
Posted in Socialon May 6, 2005
About the best ending for a baseball game is to be down, in the bottom of the nineth, with two outs and two strikes, three balls, with the bases loaded, only for the batter to hit a grand slam home run.
Tonight was almost as good. Bottom of the nineth. Down by one point. A play stole home to tie up the game. Two runners on bases: second and third. Two outs, with no balls, two strikes. Not exactly our strongest player up to bat, but he hit a home run to instantly win the game by three points. What an ending!
But there is more to baseball than the game. Its about who you watch the game with. I’m pretty convinced that even if the cougars had lost the baseball game, it still would have been the best baseball game I’ve ever been too.
Posted in Socialon Oct 10, 2004
Why has DTR become such a dirty word? Well, dirty for Provo at least. People hate them, they avoid them, they treat them like they are something horrible, worse than dirtly laundry. I’ve even seen a picture of a t-shirt with the letters DTR all crossed out.
The hatred towards DTRs reminds me of the hatred towards companionship inventory. Missionaries grew to hate the term. Even though they were suppose to be held weekly, companionships fulfilled their duration, successfully avoiding a companionship inventory. They hated them because they were only used in times of conflict. A companionship inventory was where a missionary had so much bottled up frustration that it was to come out in a companionship inventory. Thus the term “companionship inventory” also became a dirty word.
But I saw through this, and had many great companionship inventories. The key was having them regularly, and especially when things were going well. They became more of a celebration even than the release of conflict frustration. I got back to the true purpose of companionship inventory, and washed the dirt off the use of the term.
Perhaps it can be the same with DTR. If they are held frequently, and in times of good relationship status, then maybe they will not be so hated. They will be the focal point of expressing love for each partner in the relationship. They will actually be used for defining the status of the relationship, and how it can grow.
Posted in Socialon Sep 26, 2004
Dating is just one big game. A guy and a girl meet. She gives some excuse. He knows that the excuse is just a cover-up for something else. He could call her on it, except that he plays along, letting her think that he bought the excuse.
He knows what she knows, but he doesn’t let her know that he knows what she knows.
In a more specific example. The guy is at a dance and sees once or twice a couple of girls who were looking over his way. The next day, at a social gathering, they go do talk to him, but give his some excuse that they just wanted to talk to someone near by and he was the closest. What they were thinking is, “How can we start talking to him without making it look like we are picking him out.” He says that he, himself, was just looking around for someone to talk to. What he was thinking, was, “Oh wow, girls want to talk to me.” Then he realizes, “These are the same girls that we looking at me last night at the dance.” He keeps their secret from themselves. As long as they think they are playing the game, then he gets the advantage at the game by not revealing that he knows it is just a game.
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