Posts Tagged ‘marriage

Countdown almost complete

Posted in Lifeon Jun 21, 2009

5 Days Left

5 Days Left

This is where the story gets good

Posted in Lifeon Jun 20, 2009

Gold at the End of the Rainbow

Gold at the end of the rainbow

Following a previous post where I tell the story of how I started dating Sandy, I thought I would continue and talk about how I proposed.

Last February, I was visiting my parents in Oregon with Sandy, and I knew the time was right to propose. Mostly I knew because I had been planning it for a while and I finally acquired the ring which I was going to give her. We were in Oregon for Presidents Day weekend, which included Valentines day. I didn’t want to propose on Friday the 13th (maybe a little superstitious) and Sandy said it would be too cheesy to propose on Valentines day (so instead we visited the Tillamook cheese factory).

I needed to “ask her father’s permission” before proposing, but I had a hard time getting a hold of him on Sunday. When I finally did begin speaking with him on the phone, I told him that I was Jacob Brunson and he asked, “Do I know you?” to which I responded, “I hope so, I’ve been dating your daughter.”

Sandy knew all of this was going on, and she really wanted me to propose, even it if was just casual like in my parents living room. I wanted it to be a little more special, so I thought and thought about one last activity in Oregon on Monday, February 16. Going to bed Sunday night, all I knew is that I wanted it to be a little scenic.

The first thought in my mind waking up Monday morning was that I should propose on a bridge. I got on the Internet, and started researching the most romantic bridges in Portland. I found one in Portland’s Japanese Gardens, and I thought it would be the perfect place. The Japanese are right next to the Rose Garden park, so I told Sandy that I thought we should go up to see the rose gardens, which overlook downtown Portland, and have a great view.

I proposed on the other side of the bridge, right behind where Sandy is standing

As we are driving past the Oregon Zoo to the Rose Gardens, Sandy sees the sign for the Japanese gardens and asks if we can go there. I responded that I thought it was a great idea, but didn’t lead on that it was my plan all along. When we get to the entrance of the gardens I found out that they normally open at noon on Mondays, except that they had a free admission day for President’s Day and that it was going to open in twenty minutes. With the ring burning a hole in my pocket, I was thinking, “Sweet, I don’t have to spend $20 in admissions!”

The whole way home, Sandy couldnt stop looking at the ring.

The whole way home, Sandy couldn't stop looking at the ring.

We enter the garden and wander around for a little bit, as we near the bridge, I realize that there were so many people taking advantage of the free-admission holiday that it wasn’t really the private setting I had hoped for. But I found a little secluded spot with a view of the bridge, and there gave Sandy a letter which I wrote her earlier that morning. The letter had pictures of us during our time in Oregon. After she was finished with reading the letter, I knelt down on one knee and pulled out the ring. She grabbed the ring faster than I could put it on her finger, and I’m like, “So you answer is yes?”

We bought some egg rolls from Costco on the way home to share with my family to celebrate.

Job potential and marriage

Posted in Insightson Nov 18, 2008

I had a roommate once who wasn’t currently in school, and he was working a low paying food service job.  And get got married and I am really happy for him and his wife.

But at the same time, I thought his wife was kind of crazy for marrying him when he didn’t even have a decent enough job to provide for himself. Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage is not a human right

Posted in Insightson Nov 17, 2008

A couple of days ago, I discussed the definition of human rights.  I argued that a human right is something that applies to all humans, regardless of age, gender, race, or nationality.  It a right shouldn’t be given to a particular set of humans, then it probably isn’t a human right.

It is with that definition that I wish to argue that marriage is not a human right.  Many people claim that it is a basic human right to marry the person they love, but they are wrong.

Consider a child, to whom the human rights of food, shelter, education are given.  If a child is in love with someone, should they be able to marry?  Of course not.

Marriage is not a human right.  Human rights don’t need licenses or certificates.  There isn’t such thing as a license to eat.  But marriage licenses and marriage certificates do exist.

Marriage is instead a privilege afforded by governments and/or religions.

Stay married to save the planet

Posted in Insightson Dec 4, 2007

Divorce rates are increasing all over the world, except in the United States where fewer people getting married means fewer people getting divorced. When people live separate single lives, they consume more resources which is contributing to the causes of global warming, according to a study at Michigan State University.

Divorced couples use more space in their respective homes, equating to 38 million more rooms to heat, light, and air condition. Divorced couples also consume 73 billion kilowatt-hours more of electricity and 627 billion gallons more of water than married couples.

More details of the study are provided at New Scientist, which provides more quotes and statistics about divorce and its effect on the environment.

Dropping like flies in a frog tank

Posted in Socialon Apr 25, 2007

I don’t know what it is about this time of the year and people getting engaged. I think it must be the flowering trees. They release a psudo-toxin that makes newly returned missionaries pull out rings and propose to the first freshman girl they find. Maybe it is cupid trying to get in as much extra business to pay for the taxes he owes. Maybe something about the sun being directly over the equator causes a shift in the earths magnetic field causing an excess of marital hormones to be generated in college co-eds. I’m not sure what it is, but it just seems like a lot of people are getting hitched. Maybe one of these years I’ll join them in the craziness.

If you are one of the accused, you might want to check out which has worksheets for planning weddings and other pre-marital information.

Finding the someone

Posted in Socialon Dec 31, 2006

I’ve heard a number of my friends and other people talk about “meeting someone” or “finding an eternal companion.”

These phrases seem a little odd to me.  They always seem to allude that the particular someone special is a person we haven’t met yet.  I think it may be unfair to think this way.  There are always possibilities that we will marry someone we have already met, but haven’t yet dated.

I think single people should keep an open mind about who they might eventually marry, and not limit their potential companions to those they haven’t yet met.

Furthermore, if singles put themselves in the mind-frame that they will marry someone they haven’t yet met, then they risk creating a habit of always looking for the next person, whom they will never actually find.